I have not conquered this at all but I will list some of the tools and resources I have employed or am planning on employing to help the children I see with the issue of perfectionism.
Social Thinking Curriculum: There are many pieces of this curriculum that are ideal in helping the child understand how constantly correcting others is perceived or received:
- Unexpected Behaviors: It is unexpected behavior to correct the teacher or parent over minor issues. It is also unexpected behavior to correct classmates; that is the teacher's job, not your job.
- Problem Scale: How big of a problem is it that the teacher skipped a word? If it is a #1 or #2 sized problem then you do not need to call attention to it, just ignore it because it does not really make any difference to the outcome. If the omission will result in a bigger problem (i.e. doing the wrong homework, etc.) then it is okay to point it out in the correct way.
- Thinking of Others: This is a perspective-taking task. How would you feel if someone pointed out every small mistake you made? Would it make you feel sad or angry or embarrassed? Then it probably does the same thing to others. It also interrupts the lesson or distracts others.
- Social Behavior Map: Construct this map to show the sequence of consequences and the negative outcome of constantly correcting versus the more positive outcome of overlooking minor mistakes.
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